Body Language: Mastery: Decipher Nonverbal Communication, Body Language, and Speed Read People to Win Friends and Influence People (How to Analyze People) by Michael Draper

Author:Michael Draper [Draper, Michael]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Body Language Talks
Published: 2015-10-31T18:30:00+00:00

The Head

The head is one of the most important features because it’s one of the focuses of attention when we look at another person. The way we instantly make eye contact with people is quite phenomenal. A little experiment you can personally do is to look at a light briefly so that you have the imprint of light in your vision while you are in a crowded area. Obviously be careful not to stare too long, but what you will find by paying attention to that light imprint is that when looking at people you are drawn like a magnet to their eyes.

The head itself is an important place for making gestures, next to your hands it’s probably the main physical asset you have for indicating towards things. The state of your head’s droopiness is an indication of many things: when sad or contemplative you will arch your neck down and stare at the ground, looking upwards and eagle-eyed gives of a sense of power. Take looking upwards too far, or too in-your-face with your chin pointing up and others may think you appear to be arrogant. Thrust it even further forwards and your head becomes a weapon, showing people you are confrontational and angry. The extension of the neck suggests you are focusing on a target and it can be quite a violent and intimidating gesture.

Looking down and away can be quite a strong message of submission to the speaker or person, it is a look associated with children and even worried dogs. It’s a gesture that is used a lot when you are being told off and is rarely a useful way to engage with other people unless it is used consciously and you are trying to stroke their ego. As people age, using the submissive head bow can almost appear aggressive, indicating to the other person they are being too harsh or that you are not going to engage them on an equal level.

One of the most powerful things the head can do is tell someone off. A slight bow of the head or an incline to the side along with wide eyebrows can show disappointment. If you intentionally avoid looking at someone when they are providing a suggestion it is also a strong indication that you disagree with them. Turning away is also a way of putting a barrier between you and another person; it can be either aggressive or deferent to the other person.

Head shaking is another way you can communicate strongly. Nodding up and down is obviously a way to reply to a question, but a slight nod is a good way of telling someone you are paying attention. Often people that are meshing well bob along together like toys in a car window. A very fast paced nod might be an indication you want the speaker to hurry up or that you really agree with what they are saying. The head nod is also prone to faking, check for real engagement if you are not getting any verbal confirmation of what you are saying.

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